Week 12 Bravo Sticker!
Last week was a crazy emotional week. Okay, it wasn’t so emotional until Friday, but the entire week last week was harsh. I found myself eating too many points. Then all of a sudden, I wasn’t eating ENOUGH points. I wasn’t getting all of my water in. And my Activity Points were down because of the training schedule I was following. So when you add all of that together, it doesn’t always make for the best Weigh In. With that said, any loss is a good loss…especially the week after a big loss! So, today, I stepped on the scale for a loss of .8#. I’ll happily take it!
What I find interesting/different about this time around in Weight Watchers is that I am learning to really dig deep and deal with the emotional stuff. I am learning to stand up for myself and ask for what I need instead of just rolling along and stuffing myself with food. I know I have posted blogs centered around that subject before, but I feel like I need to discuss it some more. Or maybe I just need to acknowledge it some more.
Life happens. It shifts and it changes. Things we would like to NOT have happen..happen. They just do. People pass on to the next level of consciousness. Friendships/relationships shift from being very close to becoming more like an acquaintance. Your spouse or significant other really tests your patience or hurts you. Your kids drive you up a freakin’ wall and you find yourself saying, “I brought you into this world, I can take you out!” It happens. You can’t get around it. But what you CAN do is decide how you are going to react to it!
In two weeks, I have had 2 significant relationships in my life do some major shifting, and both of them hurt. It couldn’t be helped. This is just part of life. One of these shifts happened on Friday evening. I was a wreck. Truthfully, I’m still very emotional about it; though it is hurting less today than it was yesterday. I’m getting better. Saturday, was my “long run” day for my 1/2 marathon training. I didn’t get any sleep the night before, and it would have been so easy to just sleep it off and not go. But I decided that I AM WORTH SO MUCH MORE THAN THAT!!!! I got up, got dressed and hit the pavement. It was hard. It was REALLY hard! My body felt heavy and sluggish. That is because it WAS heavy…emotionally heavy. Guilt, shame, heart ache, pain, stress will make your body heavy. During my run I felt like quitting. I wanted to just turn around and give up. Then I realized, “I can’t let the upsets in life keep me back!” I kept plugging along. I did stop running. It was just too much for me to do that day. However, I kept walking…I walked faster and faster. I even ran when I thought I should try running one more time. But I WAS going to finish my training for the day. I was supposed to run/walk for 2 hours…and that is EXACTLY what I did. I’m not gonna let a heartbreak stop me from reaching my goals. I am more important than that!
Today at the Weight Watchers meeting, Paula (our leader) asked for our weekly updates…the good, the bad, the ugly. I raised my hand and shared my breakthrough moment from last week. “Needing more doesn’t mean I get to eat more”..and learning to stand up for myself and truly ask for what I need. Sure in my case it was about friendships/relationships, but in Weight Watchers it is about so much more than that. It’s about realizing what you need and that you are worthy of getting that need met. It’s up to US to see that our needs are met. We need to learn to speak up for ourselves and not hide in the corner hoping, wishing someone will see that we need something. This is part of our healing. This is part of our releasing the past to move onto our amazing present and future! It’s part of being healthy!
Usually after we share something, we get a “bravo” sticker to put on our cards. Paula did not give me one. I had a choice. I could have ignored it. I could have pouted and thought, “I guess what I said didn’t warrant a bravo.” I could have gotten angry. I could have gone to the thoughts I have been fighting since Friday “I’m not enough.” But I didn’t! I finished the meeting and quietly stood and walked to the bravo stickers. I told Paula that I am taking my bravo sticker because I need one and I know that after last week I totally deserve one! She looked at me and thanked me for sharing and for always giving so much to our meetings and told me to absolutely take my bravo sticker and that I deserved it. *laugh* It wasn’t about her thinking I deserved one; it was about me asking for what I needed!
It may be a simple little bravo sticker, but it represents so much more! How are you getting your needs met today?